Friday, May 20, 2005

It Makes No Sense

I'm not going to mention a name tonight in my journal, but just have to write.

I have a wonderful friend who's going through a hard time right now with her parents. She's a grown woman, has children, and a husband, yet her parents still think they can tell her how to live.

Last yr I had a huge blow up with my parents and didn't talk to them for 6 months. Even though things are now, ok, they will never be the same. I love my parents, but I just could never trust them the way I did before that happened. This all happened right after Chad went to Iraq, so pretty well the worst time possible.

As I talked to my friend today and she shared the conversation my heart ached as the words her parents were telling her, were words mine said to me. I don't think it matters how old we are, whether it's 1, 21, 41, or 61 we want and need to know our parents love us and want us in their lives and not just our children who made or helped make them grandparents. To feel like your parents don't love you, is awful and crushes your heart unlike anything.

For me, at the time, as hard as it all was, it was a relief to not have the constant heartache and break on a daily, weekly, monthly basis. I know nothing I can do can ease my friends heart right now. I know the best thing I can do is be there for her, love her, and pray for her.

I know there are some people who are so over whelmingly blessed to have a good and even great relationship with their mom/parents. I wish so much we all could have good relationships, but it just doesn't happen that way everytime.

 

To my friend, I love you. You're a gentle, kind, loving, and GOD FEARING woman. I'm honored to be your friend.

 

3 comments:

fairylaura said...

I'm so sorry about your friend. I don't know what is going on, but I know it must be hard coming from parents. I hope that they make it all better. I'm glad you made up with your parents. I am one of those that gets along with my mom.. she's my best friend. My dad is another story. He's too busy playing Romeo to other women.. that he just leaves his only daughter out. Oh well.. I guess we all can't have it perfect. Take care!

Laura

onecrazymomto5 said...

I don't have a good relationship with my mother at all.  A lot of bad things in the past and things she says now keep it that way.  I wish things were different - I try hard to make them better but you can't change people.  I'm glad you patched things up with your family but your right - things will never be the same.  I will be thinking of your friend and I hope things work out well for her.
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Colleen

truetomyboo61302 said...

I am so sorry you and your friend have endured these heartaches from your parents. It is tough going through something like that. I know my parents love me but we don't have a relationship like we used too. We don't see eye to eye on anything and we rarely talk now. It is tough. I hope things can get better but you both are in my prayers. Hugs, Katie