I "used" to be on a Christian chat board, but have found that more and more it's either "lets see how we can put this person down" or lets pat this person on the back for being self-righteous and hateful...but don't anyone dare call them on those nasty little things because YOU are then being self-righteous and hateful. I finally had it when a mom who's child is allergic to dairy, goes to church and quite a few serives and activities at the church throughout the week and uses the nursery, and yet the childcare workers continued to give her child diary products (the mother wrote ON the little one's name tag..NO DAIRY) put it on the sign in sheet, and physcially told them! Yet these women who are on this Christian board tell her that she can't expect people to go and change all their snacks just for her child, even though this MOM was bringing her child SAFE snacks...but again the childcare workers were just too lazy. I watched a certain few tear this mom down, as they like to do with another young mom and make it seem like it's her fault.
It broke my heart. I definately spoke up and called them out on their words, while encouraging the mom that no she was NOT over-reacting because she was upset with the childcare workers (and other than going to the Head minister, she'd talked with everyone who has anything to do with children's ministry which is where the nursery falls under).
At what point is it ok to blame the parent who is trying to do her best for her child? At what point has it become ok to blame a little child who is just barely 2 yrs old, that it's that child's responsibility to NOT eat goldfish crackers, since they have cheese in them and give her nasty reactions that lasts days. At what point do we say that if you're leaving your child in someone else's care, they are TAKING responsibility for that child. When is it ok for other Christian mom's to put down another mom who is trying to PROTECT her child.
I know I'd be furious if someone gave Jackson juice, after I specificially told them not to, (it just runs right through the little guy). If I didn't tell them, sure that would be my fault and I've done that before, therefore it is on me because it was my fault for not telling/reminding.
I don't know maybe I'm insane, over-protective, jerk who thinks it's time for adults to stop being so freaking self centered and see that if we are going to work in a nursery,be a home day care provider, or work in a daycare center, or watch a friend's child....while that/those child(ren) are in our care they are our responsibility and that includes every single thing that goes into their mouth. If we know a child is allergic to a food, we don't feed it to them. Yes, it does seem like more and more kids are allergic to more and more things...well it is the truth, and whether we like it or not as a society, as parents, as someone who's taking on the responsibility to watch others children, we need to protect these children. We wouldn't send a 2 yr old outside to the front yard to play alone without supervision.
I don't know am I insane? Is this mom over-reacting for being upset that although she's done everything she should HAVE to do (going and talking to over 5 different people is doing what she should be doing I think!) to protect her child. She shouldn't have to sit in bible study class worrying if the nursery worker is filling her child up with cheese snacks, etc.
It's not even me, but yet it just has me so steamed up. I just don't get it. I have no quit posting on the board, because I just saw too much critizism on a mom who's only doing the best she can for her child. It is the parents job to raise their children...that's an absolute. When we put them in the care of another adult though...we shouldn't have to fear that the childcare worker will purposely harm my child with a food they know she's allergic to.
It's sad, disturbing, and just plain disgusting to me.