Friday, August 11, 2006

My Uncle Is Dying

My Uncle Duane is the oldest son, he's the 2nd of 12 children from my dad's side. My dad is #5. My uncle has smoke all his adult life and as a teenager. Because of this CHOICE he's now left with 2 or 3 days left to live (from what the hospice nurse has told my grandma).

I know there are at least a few of you who read my journal that smoke. STOP! IT IS possible. If you have children, you ARE hurting them. EVEN if you are going outside unless you stay out for a MIN. of 30 minutes it's still on your skin, hair, and clothing. If you come in before that 30 minutes it'll be all on you unless you take a shower, WASH your hair and body, and put on CLEAN CLOTHES.


I have NEVER made it a secret that I HATE smoking and I think it's a SELFISH act. IT IS. You are killing yourself, your family, and anyone else you smoke around. There are now PROVEN studies that have linked 2nd hand smoke with AML leukemia. That's the cancer that killed MY Jordyn.

I do not doubt that you love your family. If you think that you getting cancer will not hurt them, you're wrong. How will they be effected when you can no longer take care of them because you're sick from chemo & radiation. Do you think it will not destroy who they are when you DIE from cancer? Cancer destroys more than JUST the person who has it.

My grandmother will now have to bury the first of her children because of smoking. My dad, my mom, and some of his siblings are in so much denial they continue to smoke, and one day I have honestly no doubt I will get that call that one of my parents has lung cancer and that another aunt or uncle has it or another cancer caused by smoking.

QUIT. If you love yourself and you love your children, QUIT. I am BEGGING YOU. LOVE yourself and your family MORE than those disgusting, money sucking, cancer stick's. I will pray for each and every one of you. I will give you all the support I can, I just beg you to quit smoking. PLEASE don't think because you're young that well "I'm too young for it to happen to me" quit fooling yourself, IT CAN. If you're middle aged and think well you've been at it for so long, you've tried to quit, etc, what...try again. You have so many GREAT years ahead of you. Wouldn't it be GREAT to wake up and be able to taste food the way it's meant to taste? Wouldn't it be great to smell things they way their supposed to? Wouldn't it be great to know that you are no longer putting cancerous toxins inside your body? If you're older and think "well I don't have that many years left"...look at the legacy you're leaving to your family and friends? As long as you have a single day left to live on this earth it's NEVER too late.

If you have a friend or family member who smokes, support them to quit. BEG them, plead with them, etc.


YOU ARE WORTH IT. You DESERVE to be healthy.

(Oh and don't say it lowers your stress level...evidence now shows that smoking actually rises your stress levels. )


This is not going to be the last time I post on this, as long as I have family and online friends who continue to smoke I will keep up pleading with you and praying for you to quit.


lv2trnscrb said...

I'm so sorry for your family, Christy. (does Uncle Duane know the Lord??; that would be my biggest concern right now for him).

I totally agree with what you said about smoking. I smoked a total of three cigarettes in my entire lifetime, all in high school, and I don't think I even smoked any of them entirely. Thankfully I have not had the desire to smoke.

The doctors I typed for used to tell patients it was the best gift they could give themselves and their bodies to stop smoking. It does raise blood pressure, contribute to cancer, heart disease, etc. Montana tripled the tax on cigarettes making cigarettes close to $5.00 a pack and people would still buy them.

Excellent advice and you keep giving it....................


sangrialel said...

It is possible to quit,  I will be smoke free for 5 years in November!  Linda

fairylaura said...

I have been trying to get into your journal for a while now. For some reason journals are acting up.

I'm sorry to hear about your uncle. My aunt was recently diagnosed with lung cancer. She was a heavy smoker. My mom smokes too. I have told her time and time again to stop. She only smokes once a day.. when she gets home from work. Still, it's bad. Coming from a Nursing student.. and a future nurse.. I hope that soon enough she'll stop. She started up again when she found out about my aunt (her sister).. not sure if it's stress. Either way, it's an awful habit to have. Take care!


chevyz71gurl74 said...

I am so sorry about your uncle Duane...
You and I have emailed one another before about
our parents smoking...and how much we HATE it...
I would be overjoyed if my parents quit...but i don't see
it happening anytime soon...<sigh>....but no matter how much
they hate hearing it...I will always let them know my take on it...
I just want them to be around for a long time...for my sake and their
grandkids.... How sad...that they don't see it this way!!

scotthlori said...

I am so sorry to hear about your uncle.  Scott and I were talking about on the beach, how many people where smoking, while on vacation.  And we went to a concert the other weekend, and sooooo many young girls are smoking.  I think they do it to control their weight.  I know, when I stopped, I gain A LOT of weight.


deshelestraci said...

Preach on, Sister.

mikalsgrl said...

I am truly sorry :( I can relate with what you are saying.....both my parents smoked heavily and although the death cert states what they fied of, I KNOW smoking played a HUGE part of it.

I have tried to ask my 2 sisters to smoke....both have children and the one has a 1 yr old. They don't get it. They saw what it did to my parents, yet they continue to smoke.

Thankfully, I never started and when you visit our home, smoking is not allowed.

Your family will continue to be in our prayers~ I hope the remainder of this deployment goes quickly- so that Chad will be home soon to share in all this and for him to be able to be there and comfort you-